Are your 'friends' making you fat?
Are your ‘friends ‘making you fat?
If you’ve ever been on any sort of diet or training programme in the attempt to shed a few pounds of blubber, lean out and finally see those abs you haven’t seen since middle school then I guarantee you’ll have heard one of these phrases:
“Oh go on, just have one, it won’t kill you!”
“Oh you may as well, no one will know”
“I don’t know how you can be bothered”
"Come on live a little"
Or my personal favourite:
“You’re obsessed”
Now my own personal response to all of these would be this: " I make the choices i make because i really want to get into the best shape possible, and i don't want to end up with a belly like yours"
But hey, I appreciate not every one can say that without laughing or getting a right hand to the jaw!
I can see myself going on a little rant here. I see it A LOT with my clients, the female ones especially and although I’m strong enough to cope with those situations myself, some people find it VERY difficult to grit their teeth and bite their tongues in situations like these:
*You know, the girl who sits opposite you at work who’s tried very quick fix diet going and offers you a biscuit EVERY SINGLE DAY- when she KNOWS you’re trying desperately hard to cut out refined carbs?
*Your friend, who always seems to be out on the booze, who can’t understand why you want to take the car and drink water all night?
*The guy at work who’s actually been known to wave packets of crisps and cakes on ‘cake day’ in your face whilst referring to you as a health freak?
*Your spouse/partner who almost forces you to eat dessert or order a take away even though your full and don’t want to blow your nutritional responsibilities for the week?
Everyone seems to think you’re obsessed.
Why do people do this?
Well, for a couple of reasons.
The first is believe is because they want to make themselves feel better, they KNOW fine well they shouldn’t be eating the garbage themselves but if YOU- the person who’s trying to get the best body they can, can eat a biscuit or a chocolate, then THEY won’t feel as guilty.
The second is because some people are just born as saboteurs (thanks to Chris Shugart of T-nation.com for the heads up on this)
Again, they say and do the things they do, sometimes without even realizing it to make themselves feel better.
Usually, this strange behaviour is down to jealousy and fear
.
Let’s take a look at case 1, jealousy- Your co-worker/friend who keeps offering you crap. He/she sees the hard work you’re putting in at the gym or at home, how disciplined you are at preparing your food and bringing it to work rather than gorging on sandwiches from the local store or the canteen. She watches in sheer envy as your body is changing shape. She’s tried diets, the gym and failed at fat loss many times over and is jealous of your accomplishments.
Isn’t it funny when you hear this one” your losing too much weight” or “you’re looking too skinny”, “ you may as well live at the gym you”
“Yer, whatever fatty” SHOULD be your response, BUT that would just be rude, not to mention politically incorrect, so please don’t do that!
Some of these guys will actually be offended by you, you make there ever expanding excuses (not to mention waistline) look lame and pathetic.
Now case 2 may touch a few raw nerves.
Case two is the spouse/partner situation I see ALL the time.
Your husband/wife/partner (usually who hasn’t been bitten by the fitness bug) sees you losing fat and building a better body. You’re body is looking better than it has done it years.
Then BAM suddenly this comes out “Do you have to go to the gym tonight, I haven’t seen you all day/week”
And/or the big bad boy “ Oh baby I love you just the way you are, you look great, you don’t need to diet or work out” or any of the other comments at the top of this article.
Okay- here’s my take and I this is my opinion so I’m not going to apologise for it as I believe it to be true.
“I love you just the way you are” is their polite, insecure way of saying “Please don’t keep dropping fat and looking in great shape, I feel lazy and inadequate if you get into shape and I don’t and I REALLY don’t want other men/women to check you out and find you hot, in case you leave my lazy ass”
food for thought?
So what you gonna do about it?
1. Surround yourself with like minded people.
Well, THE top trainer in the world Charles Poliquin often says: “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”
AMAZING advice. Surround yourself with fit people whoa re after the same goal as you; this is one of the keys to the success at our fitness camp (http://thefitnesscamp.co.uk). Hanging around with serial junk food loving boozers will definitely not help you with your fat loss mission, will it?
These ‘new’ fat loss allies could come from people at the gym who are at your level, friends that you already have who have a physique that you’d like, hell, you could even find someone online who shares a similar goal to you.
Enquire about getting yourself a mentor or role model who can bring you up to their level. I couldn’t emphasize this more.
Relationships with friends, gym buddies and workout partners can often insulate you from the negativity that comes from your family, friends and colleagues who aren’t on board with your quest for a sexy body.
2. Temporarily become arrogant, incredibly arrogant.
This is a trait that I seem to have developed sub conciesssly and I really hate to admit this but it WORKS and its works VERY WELL.
See yourself as stronger than the person who questions you; develop a certain sense of superiority. Don’t hold the excuses makers and weak willed weeds around you in contempt but remind yourself that you’re mentally and physically more powerful than people who skip workouts and who have never said ‘no’ to seconds.
Sure this superiority complex may seem a little unrealistic and heck it’ll probably make you feel quite guilty.
So, use it only when you need to, use it for all its worth then drop it like a sack of hammers
Wrap Up-
People will always try to bring you down. Just remember these two quotes.
“Obsessed, is the word that the lazy use to describe the dedicated” AND
“People who succeed in getting lean are simply willing to do what the ‘tryers’ aren’t”
If you’ve ever been on any sort of diet or training programme in the attempt to shed a few pounds of blubber, lean out and finally see those abs you haven’t seen since middle school then I guarantee you’ll have heard one of these phrases:
“Oh go on, just have one, it won’t kill you!”
“Oh you may as well, no one will know”
“I don’t know how you can be bothered”
"Come on live a little"
Or my personal favourite:
“You’re obsessed”
Now my own personal response to all of these would be this: " I make the choices i make because i really want to get into the best shape possible, and i don't want to end up with a belly like yours"
But hey, I appreciate not every one can say that without laughing or getting a right hand to the jaw!
I can see myself going on a little rant here. I see it A LOT with my clients, the female ones especially and although I’m strong enough to cope with those situations myself, some people find it VERY difficult to grit their teeth and bite their tongues in situations like these:
*You know, the girl who sits opposite you at work who’s tried very quick fix diet going and offers you a biscuit EVERY SINGLE DAY- when she KNOWS you’re trying desperately hard to cut out refined carbs?
*Your friend, who always seems to be out on the booze, who can’t understand why you want to take the car and drink water all night?
*The guy at work who’s actually been known to wave packets of crisps and cakes on ‘cake day’ in your face whilst referring to you as a health freak?
*Your spouse/partner who almost forces you to eat dessert or order a take away even though your full and don’t want to blow your nutritional responsibilities for the week?
Everyone seems to think you’re obsessed.
Why do people do this?
Well, for a couple of reasons.
The first is believe is because they want to make themselves feel better, they KNOW fine well they shouldn’t be eating the garbage themselves but if YOU- the person who’s trying to get the best body they can, can eat a biscuit or a chocolate, then THEY won’t feel as guilty.
The second is because some people are just born as saboteurs (thanks to Chris Shugart of T-nation.com for the heads up on this)
Again, they say and do the things they do, sometimes without even realizing it to make themselves feel better.
Usually, this strange behaviour is down to jealousy and fear
.
Let’s take a look at case 1, jealousy- Your co-worker/friend who keeps offering you crap. He/she sees the hard work you’re putting in at the gym or at home, how disciplined you are at preparing your food and bringing it to work rather than gorging on sandwiches from the local store or the canteen. She watches in sheer envy as your body is changing shape. She’s tried diets, the gym and failed at fat loss many times over and is jealous of your accomplishments.
Isn’t it funny when you hear this one” your losing too much weight” or “you’re looking too skinny”, “ you may as well live at the gym you”
“Yer, whatever fatty” SHOULD be your response, BUT that would just be rude, not to mention politically incorrect, so please don’t do that!
Some of these guys will actually be offended by you, you make there ever expanding excuses (not to mention waistline) look lame and pathetic.
Now case 2 may touch a few raw nerves.
Case two is the spouse/partner situation I see ALL the time.
Your husband/wife/partner (usually who hasn’t been bitten by the fitness bug) sees you losing fat and building a better body. You’re body is looking better than it has done it years.
Then BAM suddenly this comes out “Do you have to go to the gym tonight, I haven’t seen you all day/week”
And/or the big bad boy “ Oh baby I love you just the way you are, you look great, you don’t need to diet or work out” or any of the other comments at the top of this article.
Okay- here’s my take and I this is my opinion so I’m not going to apologise for it as I believe it to be true.
“I love you just the way you are” is their polite, insecure way of saying “Please don’t keep dropping fat and looking in great shape, I feel lazy and inadequate if you get into shape and I don’t and I REALLY don’t want other men/women to check you out and find you hot, in case you leave my lazy ass”
food for thought?
So what you gonna do about it?
1. Surround yourself with like minded people.
Well, THE top trainer in the world Charles Poliquin often says: “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”
AMAZING advice. Surround yourself with fit people whoa re after the same goal as you; this is one of the keys to the success at our fitness camp (http://thefitnesscamp.co.uk). Hanging around with serial junk food loving boozers will definitely not help you with your fat loss mission, will it?
These ‘new’ fat loss allies could come from people at the gym who are at your level, friends that you already have who have a physique that you’d like, hell, you could even find someone online who shares a similar goal to you.
Enquire about getting yourself a mentor or role model who can bring you up to their level. I couldn’t emphasize this more.
Relationships with friends, gym buddies and workout partners can often insulate you from the negativity that comes from your family, friends and colleagues who aren’t on board with your quest for a sexy body.
2. Temporarily become arrogant, incredibly arrogant.
This is a trait that I seem to have developed sub conciesssly and I really hate to admit this but it WORKS and its works VERY WELL.
See yourself as stronger than the person who questions you; develop a certain sense of superiority. Don’t hold the excuses makers and weak willed weeds around you in contempt but remind yourself that you’re mentally and physically more powerful than people who skip workouts and who have never said ‘no’ to seconds.
Sure this superiority complex may seem a little unrealistic and heck it’ll probably make you feel quite guilty.
So, use it only when you need to, use it for all its worth then drop it like a sack of hammers
Wrap Up-
People will always try to bring you down. Just remember these two quotes.
“Obsessed, is the word that the lazy use to describe the dedicated” AND
“People who succeed in getting lean are simply willing to do what the ‘tryers’ aren’t”
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